Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Boy dates Girl - my new favorite book

The other day I was going through a box of old pictures and stumbled upon a book that my mom found at my grandparents house when we were going through their stuff. It's called Boy dates Girl and is all dating advice. It was written in 1949 so it's extremely helpful to me right now. I thought I should share my favorite piece of information so far. I got it a little late unfortunately!

"Q. On a first date with a boy you like, should you kiss him good night?

A. A kiss good-night is all right
But, remember this--
That a kiss good-night
Leads to another kiss--
Okay. So What? It isn't as if you were going out for necking. That isn't your idea of a favorite sport. And you don't want the sort of passing poularity that's pegged on petting.
It's just that you'd rather not be known as a cold potato. Or maybe your argument is that "everybody does it." Or you don't know how to refuse.
Here's the answer.
Here's the story -- you write the ending. A boy asks you for a date. Why? He likes your looks. Or he likes your style. Or he's in a dating mood and you happen to be within talking distance.
You have the date and get alone fine. He's keen on aviation and your brother is an Air Force pilot, you have something to talk about. On the way home you pass the office of the Morning Star and he tells yoiu about his ambitions to become a roving reporter, flying his own plane. It all sounds exciting, thrilling, heart-throbbing.
By the time you reach home you're all aglow. So, when he starts to kiss you, you can't think of any reasonable reason why not. Or can you?
Sure, you've had a wonderful time. He has, too. You've clicked on almost everything - seemingly. you want him to ask you for another date. Maybe "a kiss good-night" would cinch the matter!
But if "a kiss good-night" would cinch it, how could you be sure why he's be asking you for another date? Would it be because of the "click" or the clinch??? Woul dhe be coming back because he liked you or because he liked your kisses???
If you do kiss the boys goodnight, you're running the risk of having yourself foot-noted as an "easy number." And if you think that the corner-drug huddle or the boys' locker-room gang are discussing the national debt, you'd better do some second thinking! What sort of reputation do you want? Now's the time to decide -- not later, when you wish you could correct a few "slippance" impressions.
Any girl who thinks that lasting romances are built on physical attraction is only kiddin herself, perhaps even excusing herself, fo rnothaving developed personality enough to attract a boy on an honest basis. Any girl can give a guy "a kiss good-night," but it's the smart girl who is No. 1 on the Personality Parade.
Some of the smartest girls think it's better to keep 'em guessing. "

Oh how the times have changed. I suppose maybe it's still a good idea to try to be No. 1 on the Personality Parade and not on some other sort of parade. Personally I just enjoy the little song and the lingo used. I found a few other interesting tidbits about "petting" and "necking" which I will share later.

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